Some time ago, chatting with friends, he accompanied a younger brother on a trip in Hokkaido.
I asked him if he had a good time. He told me that he and his brother were not the same, so the journey was not very pleasant.
He preached to me carefully. My brother pestered my parents to go to Japan. His mother was worried, so he invited my friend to follow my brother.
His younger brother, his family is not considered wealthy, and he has no ability to make money on his own when he just entered college, but he has the ability to spend money. Let’s take a trivial matter. Japanese prices are very expensive. A slice of cantaloupe costs about RMB 30.
A friend asked me: “Can you agree that you still can’t make money, and your family is not rich. You don’t blink just because you are thirsty. He refuses to buy water but eats three slices of cantaloupe in one go?”
This child reminds me of a very impressive sentence: Parents are still struggling, but you are showing off poetry and the distance.
There are many people like this.
Another friend of mine, whose family conditions are very average, but leads his life very “premium”.
She thinks the lunch at her unit is unpalatable. She goes out to the restaurant at noon every day. In the afternoon, she must order a cup of milk tea for more than ten yuan for delivery. When I go shopping with her, she always pulls me to eat restaurants that are very popular and expensive. Traveling with her, she has always bought all kinds of food and souvenirs at high prices in the scenic area, spending money like water. The stinky tofu is not delicious, she tasted a piece, spit it out, frowned in disgust, and threw it away.
I dare not persuade her to spend too much money. Every time she tried to persuade her, she squinted her eyes unconvincedly, moved out of her two famous sayings, and spoke confidently.
The first sentence, “Girls, be rich”; the second sentence, “You must be happy when you come out to play, and don’t care about money too much.” It seems that if I persuade her to save appropriately, I seem to be too stingy and stingy.
I thought she must have a wealthy family, until one time she went to her house. She lives in a house on the outskirts of the city. It is old and damp, narrow and small. She has to climb up a steep staircase from the first floor to the second floor.
Her grandma is wearing her high school uniform and jacket, sitting at home picking vegetables. She asked her grandma why she didn’t go to play cards, and the old man said: I have lost dozens of dollars in the past two days, and I am not happy to go today.
I borrowed their bathroom. Grandma didn’t forget to tell me to use the mop-washed water in the bucket to flush. Don’t press the button. The water splashed and wasted money.
It is such a thrifty old man, but he gives all his savings from selling vegetables to his granddaughter, letting the granddaughter squander it.
Having dinner with her parents at noon, her dad stated that he did not expect her to make money to support the family. The little salary she earned would be enough for herself to eat and wear.
Later, that friend asked me to travel together during the vacation and told me that it was very cold to commute to get off work in winter. She was going to buy a car, and her family agreed to buy it for her. When I heard these, I could only smile, not knowing what to respond to.
There is a joke that says, “I see money as dung, and my parents see me as a septic tank.”
Many people of our generation are like this.
Some time ago, the Internet discussed whether children should be poor or rich. Those who advocate affluence asked: Boys should be poor? How much hatred is your child with you?
I would also like to ask those children who spend their parents’ hard-earned money and waste: Do children want to be rich? How much do your parents owe you?
I know a boy who has paid IOUs to his parents for all his expenses from after college to before work. The money spent on occasional travel is also earned by working part-time. After working, he took money from his monthly salary to repay his parents in sums. After the child is an adult, the parents no longer have the obligation to raise them, so there is no need to discuss the topic of poverty and richness at all. But the reality is that many people get married and let their parents carry mortgages.
If you are from an ordinary family like me, then you should be very clear that every penny earned by your parents is not easy.
When parents sweat profusely under the scorching sun, they are engaged in manual labor, when parents are engaged in mental labor with backaches and backaches in the small cubicle, you will consume their daily salary after a big meal. It really won’t. Is there a trace of guilt?
When your parents are yelled by the leader, and when your parents are yelled by the client, you are yelling at your friends and living your life in style. Isn’t it true that you can’t bear it?
When you are fully armed with iPhone, iPad, or Mac, your parents have to think about buying a 100M data package for 10 yuan for a long time, and in the end they are not willing to buy it;
When you wear a brand with a name that you can tell, and a pair of shoes costs thousands of dollars, your parents are wearing old shoes that you have eliminated. They don’t understand the brand you said, and you laugh at their outdated;
When you feel that your knowledge, accomplishments, and vision are far beyond your parents, and therefore you dislike your parents “have never seen the world”, have you ever thought about it, in fact, it is your parents who lift you to a higher place, you have Opportunity to see a bigger world?
You live a youthful and invincible life, you live a bright and beautiful life, but you can’t see behind you, silently support your parents, in order to let you live a better life, still whispering to the world.
Don’t think of your parents when you are short of money. They are not ATMs. They have temperature in their chests and emotions in their heartbeats.
-Mom and Dad love us, love is not easy.